The Daily Mail published an article “Teachers tell children not to have ‘best friends’ in primary schools… to prevent the pain of falling out.” I was a bit shocked at the headlines and wondered what was contained in the report.
My findings were as follows:
- Primary schools are adopting a ‘no best friends’ policy to shield children from the pain of falling out.
- Critics are warning it is preventing youngsters from learning about the ups and downs of life.
- Educational psychologist Gaynor Sbuttoni, who provides counselling for children in London, said the practice of teachers encouraging kids to play in large groups instead of developing tight-knit bonds is increasingly common. She said teachers have consulted her about the rights and wrongs of the policy, but stressed they should not be interfering with friendships and that it is natural for children to want a best friend.
Ms Sbuttoni added: ‘If they break up, they have to feel the pain because then they’re learning to deal with it.
As parents, we’re all trying to prevent our children feeling pain, but what we should be doing is helping them bear it and find solutions, rather than trying to take it away.’ (The Daily Mail Newspaper)
The aim of this post is to point out a few reasons why having friends/best friends in our lives is quite important.
Like many relationships they always standout, and are people you depend on the most.
Our best friends truly make life worth living and in no particular order, here are 10 reasons to have best friends:
Connection: Having someone that you share a special connection with is very important. Its not often that you will bond closely with a group of friends and it is sometimes hard to really engage in a conversation as well as interact in large groups. Simply sharing one on one time with someone who knows you well, is great for friendships.
Sounding Board: It’s always great to have a sounding board. With a best friend you can always have those in depth conversations and there are no blanks to fill. A friend is able to offer you sound advice when needed.
Honesty: A best friend is more likely to tell you what you need to hear not what you want to hear. They are often honest and loyal and this is an essential ingredient in building close relationships.
Companionship: Friends are interested in being around you and time spent with a best friend is truly precious because they serve as great companions.
Support: A friend is able to offer support and encouragement much like a family member. They also comfort you during the difficult seasons and phases of life and stand by you through the good or bad times.
Boost self esteem: Friends can take you from being down in the dumps to a level of feeling great. Sometimes a good friend knowing just what to say makes you feel better and certainly boosts your self esteem.
Forgiveness: Although difficult, but best friends will often engage in the acts of forgiveness when hurt because of the foundation of your friendship.
Life lessons: Friends create/provideopportunitiesto meet new people and expose you to different social circles as well as enhance networking. They also render all kinds of help and get involved in your personal growth and development.
You don’t have to impress them: Sometimes when you start up new friendships, it is important to make a good impression and you tend to worry about your appearance and other factors. It’s different with a best friend because you are quite comfortable around them.
Best friend relationships last for years: Knowing a group of people that you generally hang out with is fine, but developing a meaningful relationship or bond with someone, can lead to you keeping that same relationship for years down the line.
Having a best friend can be one of the most meaningful relationships you can have in your life.
I look forward to your comments and suggestions.