Some strange facts emerged today:
‘Feeling Grumpy Is Good For You’. A research carried out by Professor Joe Forgas of The University of New South Wales suggests grumpy people cope with more demanding situations than happy people because of the way the brain “promotes information processing strategies”. His experiments showed in contrast to those annoying happy types, miserable people are better at decision-making and less gullible. (Culled From The BBC Website).
Did anyone sigh? Now, I understood the concept of the article but felt it should have drawn a parallel with moderate optimism hmmh!!!(I may be wrong)
I also stumbled on this headline by The Daily Mail; Want to keep the wife happy? Be miserable or risk divorce.
Research carried out with tens of thousands of couples in Britain, Germany and Australia shows that if you’re happier than your wife, you could soon be heading for the divorce courts.
It states economists have identified a phenomenon called the ‘Happiness Gap’, which states that the bigger the difference between spouses’ satisfaction levels, the greater the risk of a break-up. It was also more likely to be the disgruntled wife who would start divorce proceedings.
The study found that the happiness gap widened if wives were lumbered with most of the housework, if they had different social backgrounds to their husbands, or if they had higher than average incomes.
Did anyone scream at this fact and would it change your perspective to marriage, courtship or dating?
The Daily Express also published a report today Two Thirds Of British Women Are Bored With Life
Elaine Smith, marketing manager for Florette Fruit, which conducted the study of 3,000 women, said: “Women are so busy trying to have it all – the job, the family, the social life – that we’ve ended up with nothing.
British women are bored with their lives and half are sick of doing the same thing day in, day out. Women have lost the get-up-and-go to try something different.”
The study found most are happy in their current relationships, but 46 per cent blamed their dissatisfaction on a terrible social life. Four in ten hated their job and the same number would be happier if they could take more holidays.
After much thought, I came up with a phrase applicable to the above articles which is FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF CONSTRUCTIVELY.
In the words of Euripides; ‘there is just one life for each of us: our own. Pause for one moment to think about it and give it time to sink in.
Can anyone just take a break and FEEL GOOD ABOUT HIM/HERSELF constructively?
No one knows how many hurdles you had to jump over or rivers to cross and sacrifices made in order to get to where you are now. Come on !!!! feel good about yourself.
The aim of this post isn’t stir up an argument or disregard the facts mentioned above, but to motivate and suggest ways to feel good about yourself and if one person feels better/positive about him/herself then my job’s done.
In no particular order, here are 40 ways to feel good about yourself:
- Appreciate who you are.
- Feel good about your body and carry yourself gracefully. Spend a few minutes each day appreciating your body, I can guarantee you’d have a spring in your step.
- Dress to impress and I say that with a bit of my tongue in cheek. Come on !! wear some new clothes, shoes,… Get that Givenchy or CK One perfume and smell goooddd. Go on look gorgeous, charming or absolutely stunning.
- Do some exercises. Exercises help to release chemicals, endorphins and adrenalins and this creates natural highs.
- Smile because it can be contagious.
- Spend time doing things you love or are good at.
- Take risks or stand up to challenges and feel good about it.
- Remember and share your past achievements or awards but ensure you are constantly making progress in life.
- Do the right thing.
- Spend time with people you love e.g. spouse, partner, family, children….. They put that sparkle in you.
- Live a life of integrity.
- Become self aware.
- Have some ME time.
- Express yourself clearly, constructively, and confidently.
- Gain control of emotions and feelings. Slow down on your anger and bitterness.
- Go out on a date.
- I never believed I would say this but GET SOME SWAGGER!!!
- Go ahead; seek some intimacy, there’s nothing wrong with it or is there?
- Spend time talking to or meeting people.
- Don’t take to heart the negative things peoples say about you. At times people insult you only to hide their own insecurities.
- Cook dinner even if you can’t cook. There’s always something funny about you cooking a horrible meal lol!!! On a serious note, always remember to enjoy your food. Having a bowl of ice cream won’t hurt.
- Dance and sing to music even if you dont have the best voice in the world. Take that toothbrush, comb…(some of you know what i’m talking about lol!!), use it as a mic and sing!!!
- Watch the television, feet up on the sofa, a bowl of popcorn in the hands and……. just feel good about yourself.
- Use your initiative and do things that will aid your success.
- Show some love and kindness to people.
- Volunteer your time e.g. helping the homeless, mentoring, befriending and if possible donate to reputable charities.
- Stand up for yourself (defend yourself) where necessary.
- Create long term goals and work towards it.
- Wake up earlier than usual and start the day being very active.
- Be open to change.
- Embrace your faiths, constructive beliefs and convictions.
- Go for a run, walk or climb a mountain.
- Share a joke. Don’t get too worried if it isn’t funny it’s just a BAD JOKE.
- Let your imaginations run wild constructively lol!!!
- Use affirmations.
- Relax as often you can and sleep soundly.
- Take photographs.
- Be polite, well mannered and don’t forget to say thank you.
- Don’t focus too much on making yourself feel good. Let it come naturally.
- HAVE FUN!!!!!
Do something different today. Feel good about who you are constructively.
I look forward to your comments and suggestions.
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Great ideas, and a really good mixture! I love bad jokes, they usually make me laugh more than the really good ones:)
Thanks Ayo, for making me smile. Have a great weekend,
Kate.
hello kate,
how are you?
i’m great at telling bad jokes and very bad laughing at them.
do have a lovely weekend too
Love it Ayo!
What it comes down to is being responsible for our own happiness. Time to put check marks next to some of those items on the list
Take care,
Kim
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hi kim
how are you?
it’s great to see you here and i’m glad you loved it.
enjoy the rest of the day
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I didn’t know that so many British women were bored of their life. You did some great research here Ayo. I think this list will help those women out if they are dissatisfied with some parts of their life, and will help us (the readers) feel better about ourselves as well. Thank you!
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hello hulbert,
how are you?
thanks for stopping by and it’s great to have your contribution.
i really hope the list makes someone out there feel better.
enjoy the rest of the day
For me personally, this issue isn’t happiness per se but the definition of happiness. I have found the more content I become, the more happy I am. I don’t envision happiness as the bubbly, hyper, excited state but this place where I am at peace in my skin and the place I find myself at in this moment in time.
I thought I’d share some ‘happy’ quotes that I find quite profound…
Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other fellow and then for ourselves.
- Helen Keller
If only we’d stop trying to be happy we’d have a pretty good time.
- Edith Wharton
One should never direct people towards happiness, because happiness too is an idol of the market-place. One should direct them towards mutual affection. A beast gnawing at its prey can be happy too, but only human beings can feel affection for each other, and this is the highest achievement they can aspire to.
- Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn
Thanks for the great post, Ayo!
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hello dominique,
how are you?
are you getting set/ready for dominiques corner??
thanks for sharing the quotes and you hit the nail on the head by stating the more content we are, the happier we get.
take care and i look forward to hearing from you shortly.
Love this. Do you think it is possible to do all 40 in one day??!
This British woman has definitely not lost her ‘get up and go’ and is off to get some swagger….xx
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hello karen,
how are you?
thanks for stopping by.
do i think it’s possible to do all the 40 in one day? hmmh!”!! i doubt it but you never can tell lol!!!
it’s great to know you haven’t lost your get up and go and as for your swagger that’s fantastic.
enjoy the rest of the day and have a lovely weekend
hi ayo,
you’ve gone bonkers lol!
laughing at your bad jokes, now that’s quality
anyway i love this post. i feel good about myself each day.
but wait are you slightly criticising the findings of the reports?
take care bro
hi emmanuel,
what more can i say? i’m glad you loved this post.
for the records, i am not criticising the reports (although i dont agree with it totally ) just believe there’s more to life than feeling grumpy, find faults in your relationships and getting bored all the time.
Life is filled with challenges, struggles and excitement and it’s about time we start feeling good about ourselves constructively.
Hi Ayo,
I like the phrase, “feel good about yourself constructively.” It is like being inspirationally dissatisfied… always evolving and creating grander and grander versions of ourselves.
hello rob,
how are you?
thanks for stopping by, it’s great to have you here and i’m glad you liked the phrase. hope to see you again.
take care and enjoy the rest of the day
Ayo!
I feel good! Thank you!
(I want to run with the football on a glorious green field)
Thanks for the list of great reminders…
And thanks for being so constructive!
Have fun,
Jim
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hello jim,
how are you?
it great to feel good and as for FOOTBALL, it’s quite sad to see that the england team isnt scoring goals but i am optimisitic.
take care and enjoy the rest of the day.
Hi Ayo,
Very nice post my friend, I can relate to many of the points you have shared. I personally like this one a lot “Spend time with people you love e.g. spouse, partner, family, children….. They put that sparkle in you.” Thanks for sharing Ayo
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hi dia,
how are you?
i am glad you can relate to this an yes spending time with loved ones gives you a sense of belonging.
take care and enjoy the rest of the day.
I’d love to see the questions asked in these studies, to see if they were geared towards demonstrating how utterly miserable people are, makes for a better headline I think! Thankfully, I’m not one of the miserable masses, but I’m still going to enjoy my bowl of icecream, while lying on the sofa, watching tv (I went for a walk this morning)…hope you have a great day!
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hello claire,
how are you?
thanks for stopping by and contributing to the article.
i had a great but busy day thank you. it’s also great to know someone else enjoys a bowl of ice cream while watching tv lol!!!
enjoy the rest of the day
Ayo: Great post and I couldn’t agree more with you. I really like that phrase you coined … feel good about yourself constructively. I think it is so important that we find our own answers and truth. There are so many studies out there and so much information, but we really do have to do a gut check and see if that information is applicable to us or even accurate for us to buy into. I thought your list was great. I will definitely have to put some of those to use … perhaps I will start with “Get some Swagger”
Thanks Ayo.
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hello sibyl,
how are you?
it’s great to have you here and i am glad you enjoyed the list. i totally agree we need to pause for a moment, be sure various reports or research are applicable to our different lifestyles.
enjoy the rest of the day
Great list! How do you come up with such amazing long lists? That is really impresive.
I have to start marking some of them down as I move along in my journey…
hi baker,
what’s happening in bakers world?
did you get my emails ?
i’m glad you liked the lists.
enjoy the rest of the day
I love how FUN so many of these ideas are!! I like that some are more specific activities and others more lifestyle choices. This post just had me smiling away. Thanks for that.
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What a great list! I think all of them are really useful tips. People really do need to appreciate little things and feel good about themselves. Have some me time and be happy is totally awesome. Thanks for sharing.
hello justin,
how are you?
it’s great to have you stop by and contribute to the topic.
hope to see you again and enjoy the rest of the day
Hi Ayo, How are you? I enjoyed your list. I immediately grabbed my journal and listed ALL your list here. Just like your posts about “benefits of happiness” this too has a extensive list that I can simply take with me in my everyday daily life. How can I ever give love or appreciate someone if I don’t appreciate or love myself. Great key list here which if people just follow would make an astounding result in personal, professional, and social life. Thanks Ayo for always bringing it to the next level with your awesome posts.
Much Love to you
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hi therese,
how are you?
thanks for your kind words.
i think you’ve asked an important question ‘How can I ever give love or appreciate someone if I don’t appreciate or love myself’
take care and enjoy the rest of the day
Wonderful ideas, Ayo! To be able to feel good about one’s self, a person should focus on the positive aspects of his life. To do this, one should identify his underlying values: what experiences does he want to get out of something? Learning what his underlying values are will help him focus on what he wants in life and will consequently make him feel good about himself.
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Dear Ayo,
I love your moderate optimism, your reasonable approach to balance in life.
Most of all, Ayo, I’m going to swagger today!
Reading this over I realize just how pleased I am with my life. I’ve always chosen my own path. I never went for the traditional role of housewife and motherhood. So, I’ve been pretty happy with my choices.
I’ve carved out a path that works for me and have relationships that are mutually supportive and filled with love. I’m fortunate.
Thanks for sharing 40 ways to feel good about myself – and I LOVE the photo!
Warmest regards,
Lauren
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When we influence others by our actions we can be truly inspiring. When we influence and are radiating happiness at the same time the whole world cannot not be affected.
You deserve to swagger with fun and happiness in your heart
i feel at this moment my world has come to an end im surching my inner self to try ro make my self happy i can be in a crowd of people an still feel alone its the most horrible feeling you can have
It’s so easy to be happy with oneself and everything around you, just close your eyes think of something pleasant that has happen to you, you will found out that you will be pleased with anything. Ayo, thank you for sharing.
Hey Ayo,
Was looking for some serious answers when I came across this article. And now I am smiling ear to ear.
Will definately try implementing atleast some of these to begin with. Thanks for such a beautiful post.
God Bless!!