50 Tips To Note While Dating (Love Relationship Series II).

This post is dedicated to my lovely wife. It’s her birthday today. We have known each other for 11years and been married for 4 years

The post addresses various issues that may affect your first or ongoing dates. The aim is to remind you of these simple but important issues in dating and also improve or sharpen your dating skills.

A big shout out to Angelina who contributed to this post.

In no particular order, here are 50 Tips To Note While Dating.

• Don’t forget to be yourself. Behaving like someone else could ruin your chances of a prospective relationship.
• Don’t take yourself or the dating science too seriously.
• Don’t come across desperate that always lingers on a person and it’s a massive no no.
• If the date doesn’t go as planned, don’t beat yourself up, it may affect future dates.
• Don’t expect too much from each other on your first date. Its better you get to know each other.
• Don’t carry excess baggage or history of bad dates into a date….. The possible newbie hubby or wifey doesn’t need to know because it’s in the past.
• Don’t overdo anything on your date. Act naturally.
• Don’t forget to treat each other with respect.
• Don’t bring in your frustrations to alter the mood of the date.
• Don’t leave your date for too long at the table, it could put them in a panic mode.
• Ladies: Don’t leave your sense of humour in your handbag. Come on give the guy a break, he is trying so hard to be at his best. Laugh a bit please.
• Don’t be in a hurry or rush things
• Don’t ask too many questions on your date. Allow the right atmosphere build up.
• Don’t accept any calls during your date unless it is absolutely necessary.
• Don’t fail to follow up a date with a cheeky text or a quick phone call.
• Don’t borrow to impress. You will eventually get found out. Be confident in who you are and what you have.
• Don’t stare excessively or steal quick glances, it could be very embarrassing.
• Don’t forget to give good compliments.
• Don’t eat noisily or slurp while drinking. If these habits prove difficult to change, be open and honest about it.
• Don’t eye/chat up another attractive lady or man you meet during the date.
• Don’t look out for mistakes during your date. Remember we are not perfect.
• Don’t drop your manners at home. Be polite and very courteous.
• Don’t get sidetracked quickly. Listen to each other.
• Don’t lose your temper at anyone (including your date). Have a bit of self control and be civil about how you relay things that get on your nerves.
• Don’t act irresponsibly.
• Don’t cover up how you feel, either positively or negatively
• This is controversial but I stand by it: Don’t get drunk on your dates.
• Don’t be rigid. Go ahead show some understanding and care.
• Don’t be misleading with your body language. Try as much as you can to be comfortable with each other.
• Don’t think negative of yourself or your date. Be moderately optimistic of things moving on from a few dates.
• For guys: Don’t forget to open the door, pull out the chairs…. treat her like a lady.
• Don’t look haggard on your first date. Look good, fix up, look sharp, dress smartly, elegantly and not be provocative.
• Don’t leave bad breath hanging around. A pack of mints, chewing gum or mouthwash should do the trick.
• Don’t tell lies or exaggerate on your date. Doing this will sow seeds of distrust.
• Don’t forget to be cheerful.
• Guys: Don’t forget to arrive early to pick up your date.
• Ladies: Don’t waste too much time in getting ready for your date.
• Don’t be all bossy, arrogant and bitchy during your date.
• Don’t think too hard about unwritten rules like ‘  oh I went on a date so now I wont contact him for 3 – 4 days’ If it went well contact the person the day after!!! They may feel the same way!
• Don’t have a nasty body odour on your first date or at anytime. Wear nice cologne or perfume it helps attract the opposite sex
• Don’t look down or away when chatting to your date. Ensure you keep a good eye contact.
• The chase – don’t act desperate ’guys always like girls who don’t give too much away’. A little bit of mystery is good!
• Don’t forget to offer to pay at least half the bill even if he/she has volunteered to take care of it.
• Don’t forget to communicate properly and speak clearly.
• Don’t talk too much. Give room for the other party to speak and be heard.
• Don’t forget to take note of important points that could be raised in a discussion such as birthdays,
• Don’t act all macho pretending to be superman, creating an impression you can do it all and for the ladies, it was mentioned earlier a bit of mystery is good, but don’t over do it.
• Don’t forget to say thank you after date even if it was disastrous.
• Don’t think about sex on your first date. Think about how the relationship could blossom, if you find each other attractive.

Remember to look out for my next post; ‘50 Ways To Deal With A Heart Break.

I look forward to more comments and contributions.

Ayo Olaniyan is a certified Unitive Life Coach, an Accredited Professional Counsellor with the Counselling Society and the editor of The Life Skills Magazine. For further information, please complete this form.

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