Do we ever feel like we are drowning and nothing seems right around us?
In the movie Forrest Gump, Tom Hanks once said, “life is like a box of chocolates, you don’t know what you’re gonna get.
Life is filled with the mysteries of the unknown, uncertainty, a mix of surprises presenting many rivers to cross, difficulties to experience and fears to be conquered.
The first step to evolving into a better person is to face your personal difficulties head-on believing you can jump each hurdle on the way to achieving progress.
In resolving our personal difficulties, we should form the habit of not shirking away from the curve balls that life throws at us.
Below are 6 tips to resolving personal difficulties:
Deal with the “what if saw”
Certain questions tend to come to mind when experiencing difficulties such as, what if it gets worse? What if I never find an answer? What if I wasn’t supposed to do this? What if I shouldn’t be here? What if I fail? What if I am not liked? These questions stem from the fear of the unknown. Make a decision today to deal with the ‘‘what if’s”. The problem exists and worrying or dwelling on the ‘‘what if’s” won’t get you anywhere. There will be times when things go wrong and it shouldn’t give rise to any mudslinging or trading blames with people.
Do yourself a favour, STOP THE “WHAT IF’S”
Learn to be strong
Learning to handle difficulties in a matured manner equips us with the appropriate mindset to see things moving in a positive direction. We are able to deal with challenges this way because we refuse to allow pessimism cloud our thoughts. Being strong requires determination, decisiveness and will power to keep our focus on the results we intend to achieve from resolving our personal difficulties.
Build Experience
“Experience is a great teacher . Let each positive or negative event mark a significant learning process in your life. Pick up precious nuggets of knowledge from these experiences. The sole purpose of every experience gained, is to make you a better person who can confidently face whatever life has to offer.
Be secured
Insecurity has no place in the game of life. I keep placing emphasis on accepting who you are. Learn to love/appreciate yourself, including your strengths and weakness. Being able to give little importance to yourself will enable you assess what you have, what you need to get and how to work hard achieving this.
Underestimating your capabilities will make you a pitiful insecure individual. Accept who you are, what you have, be confident in yourself, so you could move on with the knowledge of being a distinguished person.
Share your fears
We become afraid of the dark unconsciously because we’ve heard tales of Count Dracula sucking our blood or zombies coming to get us. The fear is banished temporarily when we have some form of company, or the lights are switched on. The fear is BANISHED TOTALLY when we believe such things don’t exist. In the context of friendship, if we’ve developed trust in certain individuals, we are not scared to pour out “chaff and grain together , with a fear of being judged or getting disappointed. We know we would feel better because trusted friends serve as the company we desire in difficult times. We would always need somebody whom we can trust, who accepts as individuals with imperfections.
Endeavour to seek wise counsel because circumstances are seen in different perspectives and several insights could be provided.
Sharing your problems with people you trust is therapeutic and will release the dam of pent-up emotions kept deep inside you which would result in: a clear head, a shoulder to lean on, happiness and an immeasurable amount of reassurance.
Make your move
Once you have recognised the root of the problems, formulate a plan of action which will help you find a solution.A Carefully weigh each pros and cons. Remember to tread lightly, for one little mistake might bring you back to square one.
Be emboldened by the fact that you have armed yourself with the determination and strength of mind to surpass the difficulties you are facing. Also bear in mind you shouldn’t lose sight of your purpose in life.
If you get distracted from what you initially set out to do, then you may find it difficult getting back into the scheme of things.
On a final note, “What are you doing about the personal difficulties you are currently experiencing?”
I look forward to various comments.
