This is a guest post written by L. Aynn Daniels, M.Ed., CPM., CLC.
Aynn is a Life Coach, personal and organizational development trainer, and blogger. She is also a certified project manager and her writings can be viewed at AynnDaniels.com where she provides strategies and resources on discovering your purpose, defining your passion and designing your destiny.
She is completing her 1st E-book entitled, “Roger Fromwell and His Threefold Destiny and has just signed as one of the co-authors of a forthcoming book with Jack Canfield (Chicken Soup for the Soul) to be published in August 2012.
She is also the President and CEO of her own administrative-management consulting firm (LIANDA Consulting Group, Inc.).
There is the story of two frogs. One frog was fat and the other skinny. One day, while searching for food, they inadvertently jumped into a vat of milk. They couldn’t get out, as the sides were too slippery, so they were just swimming around.
The fat frog said to the skinny frog, “Brother Frog, there’s no use paddling any longer. We’re just going to drown, so we might as well give up.” The skinny frog replied, “Hold on brother, keep paddling. Somebody will get us out.” And they continued paddling for hours.
After a while, the fat frog said, “Brother Frog, there’s no use. I’m becoming very tired now. I’m just going to stop paddling and drown. It’s Sunday and nobody’s working. We’re doomed. There’s no possible way out of here.” But the skinny frog said, “Keep trying. Keep paddling. Something will happen, keep paddling.” Another couple of hours passed.
The fat frog said, “I can’t go on any longer. There’s no sense in doing it because we’re going to drown anyway. What’s the use?” And the fat frog stopped. He gave up. And he drowned in the milk. But the skinny frog kept on paddling.
Ten minutes later, the skinny frog felt something solid beneath his feet. He had churned the milk into butter and he hopped out of the vat.
In moments of trial and tribulation, you are faced with an inevitable choice. In those moments you may be tempted to give up. Often your options as well as your decision may be painful. Yet, a decision not to decide is still a decision.
Your ability to overcome adversity is based in your degree of resilience. Resiliency is loosely defined as one’s ability to “bounce back”.
Facing your fears and overcoming adversity is a valuable asset to have in any facet of your life. Work, relationships and other daily interactions all have challenges at times that need to be conquered. People with aversion to facing challenges are not likely to do well when confronted with adversity. Developing a positive attitude to adversity takes some effort but can be extremely beneficial.
Someone once said “A bend in the road is not the end of the road… unless you fail to make the turn.” I like the words in the Buddy Buie and J.R. Cobb, song, “Rock Bottom”, “Rock bottom is good solid ground, and a dead end street is just a place to turn around.”
Some Points to Consider:
Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. ~M. Kathleen Casey
If I had a formula for bypassing trouble, I would not pass it round. Trouble creates a capacity to handle it. I don’t embrace trouble; that’s as bad as treating it as an enemy. But I do say meet it as a friend, for you’ll see a lot of it and had better be on speaking terms with it. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes
Sometimes the littlest things in life are the hardest to take. You can sit on a mountain more comfortably than on a tack. ~Author Unknown
It is a common experience that a problem difficult at night is resolved in the morning after the committee of sleep has worked on it. ~John Steinbeck
My strength is made perfect in weakness. ~II Corinthians
Mishaps are like knives that either serve us or cut us, as we grasp them by the blade or the handle. ~James Russell Lowell, “Cambridge Thirty Years Ago,” Literary Essays
So when faced with moments of adversity, trials and challenges:
✓ Look for the teachable moment in every adverse situation.
✓ Decide whether you will allow your experience to make, or break you. Your perception will determine your decision.
✓ Cultivate faith, courage, and resilience. The more of these qualities you are armed with, the lesser the impact of the adversity.
Overcoming adversity is one of our main challenges in life. When we resolve to confront and overcome it, we become expert at dealing with it and consequently triumph over our day-to-day struggles.
I look forward to your comments and suggestions.