Do You Have A Good Sense Of Humour

I read a shocking piece today in The Daily Telegraph titled Brits’ sense of humour fails at the age of 52, study finds.(It’s slightly subjective but I’m glad I still have at least 2 decades to go lol!!!).

The research carried out by scientists at the University of Glamorgan suggests that both men and women begin to suffer a sharp decline in their sense of humour and get increasingly grumpy.

Dr Lesley Harbidge stated: “The Lifetime of Laughter Scale” shows that there really is a law of diminishing returns when it comes to laughter and the following facts emerged from the study:

  • An infant can laugh aloud as many as 300 times every day.
  • When teenagers are the age group most likely to laugh at other people’s misfortunes, they laugh on average just six times a day.
  • People in their twenties laugh four times a day.
  • There’s a slight increase to five times a day throughout your thirties and having children is cited as a major factor in restoring a sense of humour.
  • At 50, Brits are laughing just three times a day, while the average 60-year-old manages a hearty guffaw just 2.5 times in the same period.
  • We laugh twice as much in our teens as we do in our fifties.
  • The art of telling jokes is fast disappearing with most Brits only able to tell two jokes but more than 600 of the 2,000 questioned cannot remember telling a joke in the last twelve months.

Although the research is exclusive to the United Kingdom but kindly pause for a moment with a view to do a bit of soul searching and ask ‘Do You Have A Good Sense Of Humour?’

What is humour?

Humour is the tendency of particular cognitive experiences to stimulate laughter and provide amusement.

The Free Online Dictionary describes a sense of humour as the ability to appreciate or express that which is funny.

James Thurber also states, “Humour is emotional chaos remembered in tranquillity.” It could be the understanding of something we didn’t comprehend initially and this occurs every day in misunderstandings at which we laugh.

Humour consists of 3 components:

  • The cognitive experience
  • The emotional experience.
  • The physiological experience (laughter)

There are several events such as emotional difficulties, tube strikes, the failing economy, budget cuts… which make all of us upset and worked up but my challenge today is ‘Get back your sense of humour.’

Mahatma Gandhi said ‘If I had no sense of humour, I would long ago have committed suicide.”

This post attempts to give a sneak peek into what tickles me and highlight the benefits of humour.

In my world, I find the following humorous:

  • Practical or funny jokes.
  • The whole family (wife and kids) playing together.
  • Hearing others laugh.
  • Watching my wife change a light bulb.
  • Taking pictures.
  • Wearing funny caps, masks…
  • Dancing or singing sheepishly.
  • Comedians, comedy shows, movies….
  • Funny incidents.
  • My friends’ dog wagging its tail.
  • Burps and farts. (Hey!! I must point out not mine because I’m a gentleman and has good habits lol!! but when people let themselves loose through no fault of theirs, it stirs up loads of laughter)

Henry Ward Beecher states “A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs. It’s jolted by every pebble on the road.”

The benefits of humour are as follows:

  • It relieves physical tension and stress.
  • It helps you connect with others and strengthens various relationships you’ve established.
  • It helps to create a world full of hopes, dreams and curiosity.
  • Humour teaches meaning by interpreting the words, voice pitch, facial expressions, body language….
  • Humour teaches social skills.
  • It promotes likeability among individuals.
  • Humour changes how you behave, when youexperience humour you talk more, make more eye contact, touch others
  • It makes people feel/get attracted to you as a person.
  • Humour quashes conflicts or arguments that could spring up.
  • It promotes bonding between individuals.
  • Humour improves your mood and reduces anxiety.
  • According to medical research, it boosts your immune system and energy levels.
  • It instills a form of calmness.
  • It enhances optimism in different areas of your life.
  • It could make complex situations appear less threatening.
  • It allows you express your true feelings.
  • It lowers your blood pressure.
  • It creates fun and makes you feel great
  • At times it helps to increase your creativity.
  • It lightens burdens.
  • It gives room for self expression and promotes a positive attitude.
  • It promotes self acceptance.
  • It is therapeutic.

When do you use humour safely?

Well, when another person uses humour with you.

When there’s a close relationship existing between you and the other individuals.

When the event is appropriate.

When the humour is aimed at you.

Your Turn:

Do you still have your sense of humour?

It would be great to have your comments and suggestions.

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44 Comments

Dominique

about 4 years ago

What a great post Ayo. I totally agree that if I had no sense of humor, I would long ago have committed suicide. That is so true on so many levels! I think I have a great sense of humor - at least people tell me that - but sometimes I have a really hard time locating it! ha ha I can't help but wonder if our isolation - at least here in America - is one of the contributing factors. That and people here are just way too busy. We forget to take time to breathe ... and ... to laugh! BTW, my daughter shares the fart humor with you! LOL! Thanks for lightening my day! Dominique Dominique´s last blog post ..The Long Road Home – Part two

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Dominique

about 4 years ago

BTW - I sent your post all over the internet! ha ha! Dominique´s last blog post ..The Long Road Home – Part two

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello dominique how are you? hope you've rested well after the wedding and house move. you are quite right on the issue of iolation affecting or clouding our sense of humour take care and enjoy the rest of the day p.s. thanks for sharing the link. i really appreciate it

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Alex Yong

about 4 years ago

I can't live without a sense of humor. Though I love it, I detest people who make jokes out of others sufferings and I've come across such people every once in a while! An awesome post! Thanks for sharing, Ayo. Have a blessed and humorous weekend! Alex Yong´s last blog post ..You Forgive- But Have You Forget

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello alex how are you and welcome to the blog. i am glad you liked the post and thanks for emphasizing the importance of not have a sense of humour at someone elses expense. hope to ee you again. take care and enjoy the rest of the day

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Abigail

about 4 years ago

Thanks for sharing this with us Ayo. I like to think that I have a good sense of humour though my husband disagrees, I laugh too much while telling jokes that he thinks people laugh because am laughing and not necessarily at my jokes! But hey, it accomplishes the purpose! Very good read...I must say having a baby has had an immense impact on the number of times I laugh everyday...she sure brightens up my day :-)

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello abigail how are you and welcome to the blog i totally agree. if people laugh at your jokes or at the way you laugh, mission accomplished. with reference to family ie. children, husband, partner, brothers, sisters.... they contribute to having a good sense of humour. take care and enjoy the rest of the day.

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Dia

about 4 years ago

Hi Ayo, Very nice post my friend. Sense of humor has many benefits such as reduces stress, relaxes us, helps us to think positively, etc... We really should pay more attention to humor and laughter. Thanks for sharing Dia´s last blog post ..How to save your relationship and marriage

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello dia how are you? what can i say? having a sense of humour forms part of our well being take care and enjoy the rest of the day.

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Dandy

about 4 years ago

Hi Ayo, This is a great post. The benefits of laughter are overwhelming!! When I'm stressed or frustrated. I go onto youtube and watch a clip of a stand up comedian. It lifts my spirits and makes me feel better. Dandy

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello Dandy how are you and welcome to the blog. youtube is definitely a good medium for catching up on various comedies which shifts/alters our moods. hope to ee you again. take care and enjoy the rest of the day.

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Stacy

about 4 years ago

Having a sense of humor is so important for both mental and physical health! Smiling and laughing release important chemicals! Laughing really is good medicine! Stacy´s last blog post ..The Expectation of “Perfection”

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello stacy, how are you? Thanks for contributing to the article and welcome to the blog. if my biology is up to scratch i think those chemicals are endorphins(not too sure lol!!) laughter soothens our body mind and soul. hope to see you again. take care and enjoy the rest of the day.

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rob white

about 4 years ago

Hi Ayo, I find humor is a great way to expose the "insanity of humanity." Often it takes a funny story or good joke for people to really see the nature of their own thinking. We don't take things personally when we are laughing and can thus learn the lesson deeper.

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello rob how are you? thanks for contributing to the topic and i totally agree with the notion of relating the thought of individuals to a funny story or good joke take care and enjoy the rest of the day

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emmanuel

about 4 years ago

hey ayo humour is good and i am glad i have my sense of humour intact take care bro.

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello emmanuel how are you? it's great to know you still have a sense of humour. take care and enjoy the rest of the day.

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Karen

about 4 years ago

Hi Ayo, It's sad to say, but I think I tend to agree with the study. I know for myself that I used to be a lot more carefree and full of laughter when I was younger, than I am now (no where close to being 52 though!). But, if you put me with someone who has a great sense of humour, we feed off from each other and can have a rip-roaring good time. They can be hard to find though. Maybe I need to hang around with some children more often :-) Btw, I'm one of those people who can never remember jokes. I admire those that do, though :-) Karen Karen´s last blog post ..Being Thankful

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello karen how are you? could it just be that we are getting older and shouldering more responsibilities so our grades on the laughter scale reduces(i think so) lol!!@hanging around children more often and believe me you arent the only one who doesnt remember jokes, i also fall into that category. take care and enjoy the rest of the day

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Jk Hustle

about 4 years ago

Hi Ayo, Humor is a constant in my life although I've never really put much thought about the direct benefits of it - until today. It's so interesting to learn how our humor diminishes over time. Considering the benefits - then a diminishing humor is lethal. I must keep a funny bone! Over the years I've noticed a pattern with some comedians - they speak on serious subject matter but use humor as a conduit to get their point across without offending and helping to drive their message with people generally taking the same side, all from laughter. Humor is powerful! Thanks Ayo!

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello jk how are you? yes humour is powerful and as i mentioned to karen, i am not sure if our grades on the laughter scale reduces because we shoulder more responsibilities, get busy.... with reference to the comedians i have also noticed that trend take care and enjoy the rest of the day

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Frank

about 4 years ago

Hi Ayo, I can attest to the saying that laughter is the best medicine. My sense of humor has allowed me to find joy and peace through some very difficult situations. Now hiding behind a smile may not be what is best for you in some challenges but I can say confidnetly that my sense of humor has opened up a lot of opportunities for myself. Having a natural sense of humor is a positive character trait that makes you easily more likeable to many of the people you come across. Frank´s last blog post ..He is Just Like Me

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello frank how are you? indeed laughter i the best medicine and at times our smiles open doors to networks or opportunities we never thought about. take care and enjoy the rest of the day.

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Belinda Munoz + The Halfway Point

about 4 years ago

Wow! That's an astounding study, Ayo. I personally don't know what I'd do if I lost my sense of humor. I have some stressful days at work because that is the nature of chasing political and social change, and I rely heavily on my sense of humor to get me through some rough days.

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello belinda, how are you? i am also at a crossroad with regards to what i will do if i lost my ense of humour. life wont be the same again.. you are quite right when you mention our sense of humour getting us through those difficult days. take care and enjoy the rest of the day

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Fatima Da

about 4 years ago

Great post Ayo, it’s just one of the many ways to live and enjoy life, I love a good laugh every now and then and where possible will love every day filled with humour why not...... Enjoyed reading your humorous world some made me chuckle. It’s a shame Brits sense of humour declines at such a young age, I will love to think the study was based on a small population..I wouldn’t want to think people over a certain age become grumpy.. Fatima Da´s last blog post ..Top Ten Habits for Everyone Not For Just the Millionaire

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello fatima, how are you? thanks for contributing to the article. i also felt the article was subjective but it serves as a good reminder lol!!! as for my world you dont want to know my dark secrets lol!! take care and enjoy the rest of the day

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Sibyl-alternaview

about 4 years ago

Ayo: Great article. What a great read. I really liked this topic and appreciate you pointing out the importance of humor. It really can change for the better how we experience everything, how we feel and how we manage through all the challenges and issues that come our way. It really is amazing what humor can do. I like to think that I have a good sense of humor ... I can't say for sure though if everyone I come into contact with would agree :) Great article and I am taking this information to heart.

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello sibyl how are you? i am glad you liked the article and believe me humour does change our perspective to life. as for some people not acknowledging if you've got a sense of humour, i think it's relative but i'm sure or should i say, i know you do lol!!! take care and enjoy the rest of the day.

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Steven

about 4 years ago

Those are some pretty shocking findings! Of course you are spot-on about how important humor can be. I love the kinds of laughter that are so uncontrollable they make your stomach hurt. By the end of it I feel high on drugs from all the endorphins. Today I actually had more than my fair share of laughs because I discovered Norm MacDonald and I started watching all of his videos on YouTube. His segment in 'Who Wants to Be A Millionaire?" left me in hysterics. I watched it three times already. Here is the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jLkdSDAw1gU Steven´s last blog post ..PsychNews- Oct 3 – 9

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello steven how are you? you definitely have a good sense of humour lol!!! with regards to the research, i'd like to think it's subjective although there's substantial evidence. take care and enjoy the rest of the day.

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Steven

about 4 years ago

Maybe all this laughing is why I've felt so good all day.. Steven´s last blog post ..PsychNews- Oct 3 – 9

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

laughing really does make us feel good because it tends to relieve us of a lot of stress.

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Parker Lee | howtomingle.com

about 4 years ago

What a great post Ayo! I apologize that I'm just now getting to this.... Humor is something that I stress to my clients all the time, I always say when it comes to mingling, you should always start off every interaction off on a light note. Adapt your "jokes" to your audience, because everyone loves to laugh. Of course not all situations call for jokes, such as ...a funeral, or maybe a business meeting. But all in all ,everyone loves a good chuckle ;) Nice entry Ayo Parker Lee | howtomingle.com´s last blog post ..Social Network- Is CEO of Facebook Mark Zuckerberg Really An Asshole

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello parker how are you? everyone loves a good chuckle lol!!! and you are quite right we need to observe the moods of individuals and conduct ourselves responsibly when dishing out humour. take care and enjoy the rest of the day

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Kate

about 4 years ago

This is fab! I love to laugh and am a terrible giggler, usually in the most inappropriate situations. But maybe that is where the problem arises, is it ever really inappropriate? So what if I'm the the queue in Tescos and I get a funny text, I will laugh out loud, despite the funny looks! 'My wife changing a lightbulb' tickled me, sometimes the mundane things in life are the ones that really make us crack up. You have made me giggle on a gray morning, thank-you:)

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ayo

about 4 years ago

hello kate how are you? i am glad section of the article made you laugh lol!! is it ever really inappropriate hmmh!! you be the judge lol!!! take care and enjoy the rest of the day

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Zengirl @ Heart and Mind

about 4 years ago

Ayo, How are you? Many times, we are so busy and stressed with life's event it is hard to remember to smile or be humorous. Like Gandhiji said, ‘If I had no sense of humor, I would long ago have committed suicide.”, I often feel that we need to have sense of humor to survive in world. My young kids always seemed to smile but then again, they do not have to pay bills and worry silly things that we adults worry about. Zengirl @ Heart and Mind´s last blog post ..Honoring Beautiful People with Beautiful Heart!

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ayo

about 4 years ago

hi preeti how are you? you got that right with reference to kids having nothing to worry about and just running everywhere. take care and enjoy the rest of the day

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jonathanfigaro

about 4 years ago

There a Chinese proverb that goes, " Smiling add ten years to your life." My advice. Never stop!

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ayo

about 4 years ago

hi jonathan how are you? i couldnt agree more with that proverb. take care and enjoy the rest of the day.

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Bob Bessette

about 4 years ago

Hi Ayo, It is funny that you mention the age 52 is when humour fails. Well, that is my exact age! But I surely believe that my humour is still intact. In fact, each evening my wife and I make it a point to watch at least one comedy on TV. I agree that it is very beneficial and what would we be like if we didn't have humour in our lives? I would hate to think about it. Best, Bob Bob Bessette´s last blog post ..Separation Anxiety – How are you dealing with your child away at college

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ayo

about 4 years ago

ha ha bob, one flaw with the research lol!!! but then again it's exclusive to the united kingdom. hmmh!!! how are you though? i hate to imagine what my life would be like without a bit of humour. take care and enjoy the rest of the day.

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