Friends, can you do without them? Some are fun to be with, true to us, loyal, honest, caring, others are casual, platonic. We also develop close relationships and eventually a few turn out to be best friends. There are a lot of benefits having friends, from having someone to talk to, advice you or have fun with etc. Becareful to note, there are positive and negative relationships, these would be expantiated in further posts.
I have come across a few people who don’t believe in having friends/friendship, I personally don’t subscribe to that, which is why I am highlighting a few steps to making friends.
Go out and meet people.
The very first step to making friends is to go out and meet people. There are many avenues to meet people; it could be at work, social engagements, the community, neighbours, school etc. Find people that share your common interests, people you can easily relate with, feel comfortable communicating with and see a bond developing after some time. This is important so you are not taken off course.
Talk to people.
Talk to people, engage in healthy discussions, create opportunities for conversations, it could be sports, politics, work, family, etc. Conversation is key in any relationship. Ideas are shared/discussed and we could pick up things that aid our personal development.
Listen.
Learn to pay attention to details. Be a good listener. Friendship involves the aspect of being a good listener. Listen carefully, get names properly, birthdays, events, holidays, likes/dislikes etc. In difficult times, true friends listen to problems, stand, comfort, encourage and offer advice based on knowledge/ experience.
Be Reliable.
Make sure you are reliable. Always honour your words and fulfil promises. Make sure there is no love lost and KEEP SECRETS!!!.
Show Honesty.
Show honesty. Be truthful, learn to be open. People must feel comfortable when talking to you, they should be able to confide in you. Their conversations shouldn’t be disclosed to anyone else. It’s all about earning your trust.
Be fun to be with
Make sure you are fun to be with. Smile, laugh , get peoples’ attention, be exciting, be of good character etc. Make sure people are comfortable around you.
So would you make any friends today?
I look forward to more comments.
Ayo Olaniyan is a certified Unitive Life Coach, an Accredited Professional Counsellor with the Counselling Society and the editor of The Life Skills Magazine. For further information, please complete this form.
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I think that all of your points listed is a wonderful way to make friends and maintain lasting relationships. I think that the biggest issue is getting the courage to allow yourself to be vulnerable to to others. By opening up to others you can begin to build lasting relationships.
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Hello Kenya,
Thanks for stopping by and your contribution. I totally agree by opening up to others you can build lasting relationships and thats were courage, trust, logical reasoning and sometimes the heart comes into play.