I am fed up with life.

There are many of us who are fed up of our lives. The phrase fed up in the context of this post is an expression or a feeling of discouragement, dissatisfaction and frustration with several issues of concern in the journey of life. You become fed up with life, events, people and everything around you when your expectations, needs, goals, dreams etc are not achieved, appear worthless or fall short of your imagination.

The emotional responses to being fed up of life are anger, depression, fear, worry…….. The aim of this post is to offer a few suggestions that could shed some light in those dark areas of your life, which could result in motivating you, boosting your energy levels, point you in the direction of hope, inner peace and strength ( physical/spiritual).

There are several events/things that could make you fed up of life such as:

• Failure.
• Broken Relationships.
• Communication breakdown.
• Increased workloads
• Dealing with your weaknesses and insecurities.
• Procrastination.
• Fear.
• Job Losses
• The Media
• Over analyzing events, situations or what’s been said.
• Managing a family
• The Economic Climate.
• Financial responsibilities
• Crime rate

The list is endless.

There isn’t a fixed method/routine for coping with undue pressures, but here are a few practical suggestions:

Examine your life

In examining your lifestyle, there is a need to look at how you arrived at where you are currently, the experiences you’ve had in the past/present, your goals, aspirations, ambitions and most of all the difficulties encountered in the journey of life. You also need to understand the importance being realistic with your expectations, making a conscious decision not to create unnecessary pressure through several activities you are involved in and finally, dealing with the challenges that come your way.

Work on your attitude

“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference” – Winston Churchill

Your attitude contributes to the level of success attained. It also makes a difference or improves the way you work, manage your time, communicate, build relationships and deal with the issues of life. Your attitude determines how you respond to challenges, whether you rise or fall, what experience can be gained from living a life filled with purpose. A positive attitude enhances optimism, helps you manage worries and conditions your thoughts. Developing a positive attitude is a post on it’s own but a brief summary of its benefits are as follows:

• It aids your success.
• It creates a level of inspiration and motivation.
• It allows you overcome various difficulties.
• It helps you in achieving your goals.
• It allows you communicate effectively.

Express your frustrations

Sharing your experiences or difficulties with a network of trusted friends/family provides a form of relief when you feel sick and tired. Remember, there are several ways to resolve different issues and learning from the experiences of others could reduce stress levels and bring about happiness. Be around people you are accountable to, who won’t withhold any form of encouragement from you or keep you at arms length as you share your frustrations.

Regain control

There are a few instances, were you become sick and tired of life when you notice you don’t have any control of the situation at hand. You lose your mind, sleep, becomes anxious for everything. Things generally, just spiral out of control. Sometimes your level of frustration reduces the moment you figure out a way to gain control by being realistic, thoughtful, optimistic, collaborating with people and accepting the situation.

Rest

Form the habit of relaxing in order to reduce your levels of anxiety and worry. Your mind could wander into past events, causing sleepless nights, poor diets, frequent headaches, etc. In order to gain control of your emotions and combat the feeling of being sick and tired, wherever you find yourself, resting can’t be overlooked. Take time out to sleep properly, laze around, listen to music or have some form of leisure activity.

Look at your options

Learn to investigate or think deeply about the possible ways of resolving the problem  The more options you have for dealing with  negative situations, the less sick and tired you become.

Be strong and confident

Learning to handle difficulties in a matured manner equips you with the appropriate mindset to see things moving in a positive direction. You are able to deal with challenges this way because you refuse to allow pessimism cloud your thoughts. Being strong requires determination, decisiveness and the will power to keep your focus on the results you intend to achieve.

Seek Professional Help

Employing the services of a counsellor, coach, psychotherapist etc could be effective in dealing with the feeling of being sick and tired. If you sense the need for professional advice, do not hesitate to call or visit your local GP, professional counsellor or psychotherapist.

Do some stress relief activities

There are several stress relief activities you can perform such as:

• Breathing
• Exercises
• Walking
• Listening to music
• Swimming
• Having a coffee or lunch break.

I look forward to your comments and suggestions.

Ayo Olaniyan is a certified Unitive Life Coach, an Accredited Professional Counsellor with the Counselling Society and the editor of The Life Skills Magazine. For further information, please complete this form.

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