There are several things that get you worked up and sometimes push you to the extreme. You feel stressed, worried, anxious, angry etc, to a point were all you want to do is LASH OUT or retreat emotionally. There is a possibility you become vulnerable due to overwhelming issues which vary from events occurring in the world today such as the economy, the state of the nation, families in disarray etc.
All hell is let loose because you feel betrayed, disrespected, cheated, angry, hurt, taken for granted….. Your blood pressure and temper goes through the roof when you feel there is no way out.
Charles J.Ingersoll says, ‘Anger blows out the lamp of the mind. In the examination of a great and important question, everyone should be serene, slow-pulsed, and calm’.
This post attempts to suggest various tips on how to calm down when trying to resolve issues and take control of challenging situations. This is important because it gives you peace of mind, emotional stability, purpose, a healthy heart…….`
Cyril Connolly believes ‘The secret of success is to be in harmony with existence, to be calm always … to let each wave of life wash us a little farther up the shore’.
In no particular order, here are a few tips to help us calm down when faced with difficult scenarios.
- Take things one step at a time.
- Stop whining, nagging and do something about the situation.
- Have a clear focus or goal.
- Believe in yourself and your abilities.
- Get occupied with different things in order to shift your focus from the anxiety.
- Get enough rest always.
- Avoid worrying too much because it causes fear, depression and insomnia.
- Spend some time reflecting on the issues before taking action.
- Be optimistic.
- Be patient.
- Sit back, relax and listen to music.
- Don’t be too hard on yourself.
- Enjoy the positive moments you’ve experienced.
- Take time out to pray and meditate.
- Go for long walks to clear your head.
- Engage in arguments carefully, reasonably and with a bit of common sense.
- Talk to friends and family about all that’s on your mind.
- Squeeze a stress ball or solve a jigsaw cube to calm your nerves.
- Genuinely apologise if you’ve upset someone.
- Go for a shower.
- Create positive scenes and images in your mind.
- In certain instances look inwards to find peace and solutions to peculiar difficulties.
- There’s absolutely nothing wrong in having a body massage.
- Set attainable goals and break large tasks into smaller, but manageable units.
- Replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
- Avoid being too competitive.
- Form a habit of exercising.
- Get organized and manage your time properly
- Engage in relaxation exercises such as deep breathing or muscle relaxation.
- Seek professional help when necessary.
Could you come up with other useful ways of being calm.
I look forward to your comments and suggestions.