Just Calm Down!!!

Please Note: This post focuses on being calm, which is a useful way of reducing stress, worry, anxiety and exerting reasonable control over your emotions in difficult circumstances.

There are several things that get you worked up and sometimes push you to the extreme. You feel stressed, worried, anxious, angry etc, to a point were all you want to do is LASH OUT or retreat emotionally. There is a possibility you become vulnerable due to overwhelming issues which vary from events occurring in the world today such as the economy, the state of the nation, families in disarray etc.

All hell is let loose because you feel betrayed, disrespected, cheated, angry, hurt, taken for granted….. Your blood pressure and temper goes through the roof when you feel there is no way out.

Charles J.Ingersoll says, ‘Anger blows out the lamp of the mind. In the examination of a great and important question, everyone should be serene, slow-pulsed, and calm’.

This post attempts to suggest various tips on how to calm down when trying to resolve issues and take control of challenging situations. This is important because it gives you peace of mind, emotional stability, purpose, a healthy heart…….`

Cyril Connolly believes ‘The secret of success is to be in harmony with existence, to be calm always … to let each wave of life wash us a little farther up the shore’.

In no particular order, here are a few tips to help us calm down when faced with difficult scenarios.

  • Take things one step at a time.
  • Stop whining, nagging and do something about the situation.
  • Have a clear focus or goal.
  • Believe in yourself and your abilities.
  • Get occupied with different things in order to shift your focus from the anxiety.
  • Get enough rest always.
  • Avoid worrying too much because it causes fear, depression and insomnia.
  • Spend some time reflecting on the issues before taking action.
  • Be optimistic.
  • Be patient.
  • Sit back, relax and listen to music.
  • Don’t be too hard on yourself.
  • Enjoy the positive moments you’ve experienced.
  • Take time out to pray and meditate.
  • Go for long walks to clear your head.
  • Engage in arguments carefully, reasonably and with a bit of common sense.
  • Talk to friends and family about all that’s on your mind.
  • Squeeze a stress ball or solve a jigsaw cube to calm your nerves.
  • Genuinely apologise if you’ve upset someone.
  • Go for a shower.
  • Create positive scenes and images in your mind.
  • In certain instances look inwards to find peace and solutions to peculiar difficulties.
  • There’s absolutely nothing wrong in having a body massage.
  • Set attainable goals and break large tasks into smaller, but manageable units.
  • Replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
  • Avoid being too competitive.
  • Form a habit of exercising.
  • Get organized and manage your time properly
  • Engage in relaxation exercises such as deep breathing or muscle relaxation.
  • Seek professional help when necessary.

Could you come up with other useful ways of being calm.

I look forward to your comments and suggestions.

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12 Comments

kenny

about 5 years ago

ayo, i needed this post. been going through a few issues but.. thanks for this

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 5 years ago

hi kenny, i hope you resolve those issues. take care!!!

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Patty - Why Not Start Now?

about 5 years ago

Ayo, I like the idea of taking a shower. You don't see that one on many lists! And yet, it is such a simple thing that gets us back into our sensations and feels like a fresh start. In fact, I'm headed there myself right now, after a stressful day. I know it will both revive and calm me. Nice post! .-= Patty - Why Not Start Now?´s last blog ..In the Hallway of Transition =-.

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 5 years ago

hi patty, thanks for stopping by. hope you had a relaxing time after work.

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Belinda Munoz

about 5 years ago

Nice list. A super simple thing that I do that helps instantly is I close my eyes. For a few seconds. It doesn't work if I'm the middle of a discussion/argument or any kind of confrontational conversation with someone, but it works if I get stressed out in the middle of a difficult project or at the end of the day.

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 5 years ago

i like that belinda!!! 'close your eyes'. I do that some times and its got a soothing effect.

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Bob Bessette

about 5 years ago

Hi Ayo, I can relax by working on my hobby which is woodworking. I don't always have the time but, when I do, it does help me be calm. So, I would say, engage yourself in a hobby which relaxes you. Best, Bob .-= Bob Bessette´s last blog ..Do you have to work full-time? =-.

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 5 years ago

Engage yourself in a hobby which relaxes you. I love that bob. I enjoy playing basketball and it could be relaxing, tiring and very COMPETITIVE!!!!

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Tom Volkar / Delightful Work

about 5 years ago

I frequently exercise and I'm a natural optimist so I really don't find myself getting worked up at all that much. From looking at that big smile on your face I'll bet you're the same way. Thanks for doing your part to release the world's upset. .-= Tom Volkar / Delightful Work´s last blog ..Live Big or Die Small =-.

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 5 years ago

Hi Tom, Thanks for stopping by. I couldn't agree more lol!!! I spend an hour in the gym(to lose that flab!! lol!!!) but it's refreshing. I am optimistic but with a bit of common sense, infact i tok martin seligmans test recently and it showed i was moderately optimistic.

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Eric

about 4 years ago

These are all good and I especially like the first four you have listed here. You'll find ways I illustrate on how to clear your vision without following the crowd on my blog Goals4Individuals.com and I mention that because a lot of what you have here could very well fit in there as well. One very important one to note is figuring out how solve a situation. Anyone can figure out the problem... It's usually easy to spot. Figuring out how to solve it takes more work and is worth it too. We should all worry about this more in life and we'll have better lives with more to be thankful for. Great post, Ayo! :) .-= Eric´s last blog ..Lets Help Each Other =-.

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