What Makes You Beautiful

***Please Note: This article in no way discredits the services of BeautifulPeople.com and it recognises the fact that it is an elitist club, an exclusively beautiful community, founded for the purpose of creating personal and professional relationships. It is also a business built on strict policies and acknowledges that membership is subject to a unique rating module where the deciding factor is a majority vote by existing members; however it points out that beauty is subjective and it lies in the eyes of the beholder.

This post serves as a reminder that we are beautiful in our own way.

One of today’s most viewed pages on the Daily Telegraphs’ website is ‘British people are among the world’s ugliest, according to BeautifulPeople.com.’

The following facts emerged:

  • One in eight British men (12 percent) and just three in twenty women (15 percent) who have applied to BeautifulPeople.com have been accepted as members.
  • Swedish men have proved to be the most successful applicants, with two-thirds (65 percent) of those putting themselves forward being accepted.
  • Norwegian women are considered the most beautiful with more than three-quarters (76 percent) making the grade.
  • Since the website was opened to UK members, 295,000 people have applied, with only 35,000 being approved.
  • 900 Brits were expelled after gaining weight over the Christmas period in 2009
  • Sweden, Brazil and Norway are proving to be the most beautiful countries overall, with applicants from Germany and the UK among the least successful. (Culled From The Daily Telegraph )

The Managing Director Greg Hodge thinks:

There is less emphasis on appearance in the UK than overseas.

Some other countries are into how they look – very health and body conscious.

The UK attitude is a bit more about kicking back, relaxing, and having a few drinks in the pub after work.

**This article may appear controversial and it’s not meant to be one of those feel good posts; however I assure you it’s written from my heart with a view to focus on simple things that remind you of how beautiful you are.

It’s dedicated to anyone looking to build more confidence in who they are, embrace the concept of being YOU, boost your esteem………….

Before the article gets shot down in flames I acknowledge that beauty and ugliness exist in subjective terms as a result of appearance, behaviour, taste, class………..

There are different standards/mindsets and hey I’m no George Clooney or JK Allen (I’m jealous lol!!) but should perfection and acceptance be centred round them?

In my humble opinion the answer is NO!!

Of course one could borrow a thing or two from them to improve one’s fashion style, mannerisms, bounce, swag…. .. but the crux of the matter is we need to stay authentic, accept who we are and be comfortable in our own skin.

Beauty

The Free Online Dictionary defines beauty as a combination of all the qualities of a person; things that delights the senses and pleases the mind intellectually or emotionally.

Dr. Douglas Yu (University of East Anglia) believes beauty is always judged by the receiver and “there is an inter-observer concordance, a measure of objectivity,” so that individual perceptions of beauty, factoring in other characteristics such as personality and intelligence, can often be aggregated to form a consensus opinion.

Once again the aim of this post is to emphasize on a few things which make you stand out, encourage you to look good, stay healthy and accept who you are constructively.

In no particular order, here are a few things to remind you of how beautiful you are:

  • Love makes you beautiful
  • Your good manners make you stand out.
  • You’ve got a unique way of doing things and that makes you beautiful.
  • Your eyes, legs, figure, in my case a big head…. makes you beautiful
  • Your kindness and warmth makes you beautiful.
  • Your smile makes you beautiful.
  • Your good heart makes you beautiful
  • Your soothing or husky voice makes you beautiful.
  • Your patience and empathy makes you beautiful
  • Your fashion sense and style makes you so attractive.
  • Your ripped abs and muscles makes you attractive.
  • Your charisma makes you look beautiful.
  • Your size makes you beautiful because you know, love and accept it. However if you decide not to accept it for medical or any other justifiable reason then it’s best to work on it in order to improve your health.
  • Pregnancy makes you beautiful(www.babycentre.co.uk)
  • Your height makes you beautiful
  • At times your flaws make you beautiful depending on how you flaunt them. It’s a well known fact that Will Smith has big ears and Tyra Banks has a slightly big forehead but they’ve got so much class
  • Your friendly personality makes you beautiful.
  • Your positive attitude to life makes you beautiful.
  • The way you toss your hair, keep your nails, shrug your shoulders, walk upright…. all constitutes to making you beautiful.
  • Your specific interests also play a role in your beauty.
  • Your humility also makes you beautiful.
  • Your overwhelming charm makes you beautiful.
  • Your healthy eating habits make you beautiful
  • Your nice smell lol!! also contributes to what makes you attractive.
  • Wearing bright colours make you beautiful.
  • Your slight tan under the sun during summer makes you beautiful.(not so sure about fake tan lol!!!)
  • Your smooth skin makes you feel beautiful.
  • Celebrating others and giving sincere compliments also adds to your glow.
  • Your talents make you beautiful
  • Your thoughtfulness makes you beautiful.

The benefits of recognizing what makes you look beautiful are as follows:

It creates a good feeling within you

It boosts your creativity.

It promotes a better mental health.

It gives you a greater feeling of self worth.

It enhances your psychological and physiological well being.

Your Turn

Can you list any other thing that makes you beautiful?

It would be great to have your comments and suggestions.

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37 Comments

Evelyn

about 4 years ago

Hi Ayo, This is a great post! You remind us that beauty is not what we see, but so much more. I have been in the presence of beautiful people, but could not wait to leave their presence, because they had ugly and fowl attitudes, which made them very ugly. Just being quiet and listening can makes one beautiful. Take care, Evelyn Evelyn´s last blog post ..Forks Over Knives- Diet is Important

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello evelyn how are you? i am thrilled to have you stop by and totally agrees that theres more to beauty than just ones physical appearance.(although that plays a role subjectively) a bit of humility and being responsive would do no one any harm and i actually believe it adds class ones beauty. i look forward to hearing from you again. take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day

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Dia

about 4 years ago

Hi Ayo, I love this post! When it comes to beauty, each and everyone is beautiful in his or her own way. I believe in the proverb that says, "Beauty is the eye of the beholder." The world is beautiful, life is beautiful, nature is beautiful, and we are all beautiful in our own way. :) Thanks for sharing

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello dia how are you? once again thanks for stressing the fact that beauty is relative because what seems attractive to person A may be 'just okay' for person B. However it's important we stay true to ourselves and remain beautiful. take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day

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Stuart

about 4 years ago

Ayo, this came from the heart, I can tell. Indeed, this article was beautiful. I had a look at BeautifulPeople.com, to see what the motivation was for you to write this article, and also because I'd seen the site referenced on an episode of Family Guy once. I picked up two things from this site: - The site isn't as bad as Family Guy made it out to be, but it's still pretty 'lop-sided' - The site feeds and fuels a deep and dark fear inside all of us Family Guy made the site out to be an evil organisation from a cartoon, which I'm sure it's not, but I did pick up a few 'negative' vibes. One of them is that you are elected into the group by a democrat vote consisting of members of the opposite sex. This doesn't seem right; what about the homosexual community? Are they not allowed to vote for a potential same-sex member? The idea seems to be that those of the opposite sex 'must' be attracted to you in order for you to join, but if you are homosexual, then would they the find you attractive? I doubt it. They even find it a turn-off, and that would destroy any chances of you joining, even if you were conventionally beautiful. Another negative vibe is a statement made in the About page, "everyone on this site is attractive". Really? I looked at the people posing on the site's homepage, and I didn't find them attractive. Does that mean that they then should be voted out the group? And what is "attractive"? One man's 'attractive' is another man's 'fat'. One woman's 'attractive' is another woman's 'jerk'. Attractive is individual, defined by far, far more than physical beauty. I'd love to write a post on this idea Ayo, you really uncovered a gem of a topic here :-) Stuart´s last blog post ..Unlock The Elevation- Interview With Bryan Thompson

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello stu how are you? now i dont know where to start from lol!!! because you've covered different areas including family guy and i must admit, it's been a long time i watched it hee hee!! my eye just caught this topic while reading the current news article for the day on the daily telegraph and it was one of the most visited pages for the day. i acknowledge that there are extremely beautiful women as well as good looking men (by my standards lol!!) but the crux of the matter is while we appreciate a man with a good build/height (denzel washington, keanu reeves) or the lady with an hour glass figure (my wife, halle berry) blah blah!! we should also acknowledge our beauty both internally and externally, feel good and be proud of who we are. this is the main focus of the post(simple things which remind us of how beautiful we are) with reference to writing a post on this issue, i would say go for it because i have received some encouraging emails from people who had given up on being and feeling attractive. besides the article had 700 hits alone yesterday highlighting the fact that it's an important subject. take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day

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Amy

about 4 years ago

You get serious bonus points for comparing your wife to Halle Berry! :) Amy´s last blog post ..Black- White- Pink and Happy

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

lol!!! amy my wife always comes first when discussing issues like this and SHE says she's more queen latifah than halle berry lol!!! thanks amy and have a great day.

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emmanuel

about 4 years ago

whats good bro lovely article here. i am beautiful because i am me and theres nothing that can change that. safe man easy

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello emmanuel how are you? i totally agree. lets celebrate who we are constructively. take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day

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Amy

about 4 years ago

Wow--I'd never heard of that website, and I am a little appalled. What is the point of purposely associating yourself with only physically attractive people? So others will think you're more attractive as well? Is it because physically attractive people are inherently better than other people? I'm with Stuart--there is a post in here somewhere, because I am getting all riled up! :) But as to your lovely post; you're right. There are so many things that go into making a person beautiful, and most of them have nothing to do with the way they look. I would add kindness and a sense of humor to the list. Thanks for getting me thinking! :) Amy´s last blog post ..Attack of the Big Gulp Mom

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello amy how are you? thank you so much for contributing to the article, i really really appreciate it. i am not so sure in the grand scheme of things if physically attractive people are inherently better than others because we all excel in various areas differently. your suggestions kindness and humour are spot on. they are great qualities and once again the focus of this post was to remind us of simple things(including our appearance) that make us beautiful. i subscribe to getting tips, styles...... from people but we should in no way belittle ourselves or be patronized by others with reference to not being beautiful. however i must stress that if we need to develop new habits or routines for medical or health reasons we mustn't just sit down and fold our arms. as for generating a post on this issue, as i said to stuart, go for it because i have received encouraging emails from people who felt no longer attractive but are beginning to think again and the article had 700 hits yesterday so it must be an important issue. take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day

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TheFashionistachic

about 4 years ago

I find this post particular of interest to me, because it relates to my line of business. I specialize in developing wardrobes for women that expresses their personal style. As you stated "Your fashion sense and style" makes you so attractive. Often this can be viewed as vain. I don't agree. One who doesn't takes pride in his/her appearance speaks to how one feels about themselves. I have transformed many women who will testify that the experience is life changing. When a women has a beautiful well styled outfit to wear everyday of the week, I can't tell you how anxious she is to start her day. Her facial express and body language exudes confidents. Frequently this has a domino effect on her significant other and children. Mom is happy and excited about the world, usually hubby and kid too become excited about the world. In summary please don't discount beauty. It has its place in our society. It doesn't always have to be construed as vanity. BTW are you a professional writer? Your writing style is SO BEAUTIFUL and eloquent. 8-)

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello the fashionistachic how are you and welcome to the blog. thanks for contributing to the discussion and i agree with all you've written can i quickly clarify that i do not disregard beauty at all(i would need serious therapy if i did) and it definitely has a place in our society but i must stress that it's subjective and no one should feel inadequate being around certain people. the main focus of this post was to remind us that we all cant be like sandra bullock or kelly rowland(love her) so it's important we feel good about ourselves (constructively) some people get bogged down if they experience hair loss, cant attain the perfect height or weight,or have the hourglas figure, show a six pack......(the list is endless) these are my target audience in this post. we all have something in us that makes us beautiful and i recognize there are several things we can do to enhance our beauty internally and externally and i guess this is were you come in as a consultant( i hope this is correct). you are able to style men and women in various outfits which would enhance/improve their appearance and as a result build their confidence and make them feel good about themselves. your clients feel elated and satisfied not because they are the next jennifer hudson but they are simply .......... i must commend the work you do(just had a quick look at your blog) and i have always wished for a health/fashion column in my magazine. forgive me in advance if this sounds too forward but it would be fantastic to have your contribution to the magazine whenever you can(please) finally: thanks for the compliment, it made my day. i am not a professional writer and would certainly highlight your comment to my course supervisor who thinks otherwise lol!!! take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day

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Riley Harrison

about 4 years ago

Hi Ayo, The question of beauty and how it's defined always reminds me of the following line from one of the all time great comedians: She got her looks from her father. He's a plastic surgeon. Groucho Marx Riley Riley Harrison´s last blog post ..CHOOSE – A LIFE OF UNFULFILLED FANTASIES OR WONDERFUL ACCOMPLISHMENTS

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello riley how are you? thanks for stopping by, i really appreciate it you cracked me up with that line from Groucho Marx lol!!! take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day

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Christian Hollingsworth

about 4 years ago

Beauty is certainly in the eye of the beholder; and the spirit within. When someone is a genuine, good person; you can feel it. You see it. It's something you sense with more then just your eyes or ears. Christian Hollingsworth´s last blog post ..My Story

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Christian Hollingsworth

about 4 years ago

Oh, and I'm all signed up on your RSS feed now. Love your content. I'm excited! Christian Hollingsworth´s last blog post ..My Story

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

thanks for your kind words christian

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello christian how are you? that's a neat summary reminding us of beauty being subjective and not only skin deep. take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day

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Frank

about 4 years ago

Ayo, I don't beleive that beauty can be defined appropriately by anyone person to catagorize another becasue it is something that is derivied on a personal level. "One man's trash is another man's treasure." Each person has different taste, a different set of likes, a different desire. You can't make a page to define beauty but you can offend a lot of people and get a lot of page views. :-) This was a very touching post Ayo.

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello frank how are you? again it all comes down to our individual taste showing us how beauty is subjective. take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day

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Joshua

about 4 years ago

Hello, In my opinion, beautiful cannot be defined by any person. Being beautiful is something 'unsteady', it depends very much on the behaviour and thinking. That's what makes the beautiness become more beautiful. Thanks for sharing! Joshua´s last blog post ..Online Plumbing Courses

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello joshua how are you? thanks for contributing to the discussion and once again it appears that there's a general consensus about beauty being subjective (differing from person to person) take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day

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Ranjith (SR) | A light hearted talk

about 4 years ago

Beauty as stated is something that is related to the inner heart and not the outer appearance as seen by 'BeautifulPeople'. No wonder that even the selections for Miss world, Miss Universe and other things of that kind question the participants a few things related to life to know how beautiful the person is within his heart. Beauty is a state of mind. If that sate is alright, the whole world looks beautiful. - Ranjith Ranjith (SR) | A light hearted talk´s last blog post ..If time can come to a standstill

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello ranjith how are you? thanks for contributing to the discussion and as i mentioned to the fashionista it is also important to embrace and acknowledge physical appearance. however something we all agree on is the relevance of inner beauty which you've mentioned. take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day

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Sibyl - alternaview

about 4 years ago

Ayo: What you said here is so true. I do think we have to define for ourselves what true beauty is. It is easy to get caught up in other people's opinions, but the truth really is that there are so many ways to be beautiful. Great message. Sibyl - alternaview´s last blog post ..How to Instantly Turn Your Day from “Bad” to “Great”

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

and on that note!!! there are so many ways to be beautiful, i rest my case lol!! there's a lot contained in that sentence you've made. forgive my manners though, how are you sibyl? thanks for stopping by and enjoy the rest of the day

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Mitch Mitchell

about 4 years ago

Wow, I can't believe that site even dares to announce something like that. Beauty is always in the eyes of both the beholder and the person being decided upon, and to make an overall statement like they did is, well, irresponsible. I love the points you make here afterwards, but probably love this one most of all: Your humility also makes you beautiful. Great job! Mitch Mitchell´s last blog post ..Blogging Responsibly Part Two

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Ayo Olaniyan

about 4 years ago

hello mitch how are you and welcome to the blog i share your sentiments but we need to recognise it's the concept of the business and it's governed by various policies so..... besides they've got the statistics to validate their position but on the other side of the fence, it's important to mention that there are several things that contribute to ones beauty (which sums up this post) I hope to read from you again. take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of the day

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John Sherry

about 4 years ago

Personally I think the Beautiful People site is unhelpful and demeaning as it values looks over all other attributes - a gorgeous woman could be a real selfish person underneath, a handsome hunk might be a jealous partner. What you brilliantly write Ayo is that beauty is our attributes and qualities and those make everyone beautiful to me. How am I beautiful? I have a kind and warm heart, love to encourage and support people, always have a kind word and am a good listener, and have a great sense of humour. But I'm not alone, the world is full of people like me, millions in fact. I applaud you for this post Ayo, a true masterpiece of wisdom! John Sherry´s last blog post ..You’re Not Meant To Live Life Alone

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Zengirl @ Heart and Mind

about 4 years ago

Hi Ayo, How are you? I have heard of this site and I will keep my opinion to myself as my mom said it "when you do not have nice things to say, do not say it". I think "BEAUTY IS IN EYE OF BEHOLDER"., Ask any mom how cute/beautiful her child is, and I will tell you she will think her child is the Most beautiful. I think confidence makes you more beautiful than any make up or jewelry. Preeti Zengirl @ Heart and Mind´s last blog post ..6 Surprising Ways to Boost Your Happiness

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Marcus@Laser printer reviews

about 4 years ago

Hi Ayo, This is an excellent post! In fact, it's one of those refrigerator posts, you know where you print it off and stick it to the front of your refrigerator with a magnet? You pointed out many things on that list that people tend to forget. Beauty definitely IS in the eye of the beholder. Just because some website rejects you doesn't mean that you're not beautiful. The thing that the "beautiful" people don't seem to get is that, one day, they'll get old and wrinkled just like everyone else, unless, of course they have the money for ongoing plastic surgery. Personally, I don't care for the plastic look. Thanks again! Marcus@Laser printer reviews´s last blog post ..Canon L170 Laser Fax Printer Review

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Sam

about 4 years ago

hi Ayo, I don't know but I'm 18 years old and i can honestly say i've never felt beautiful even reading things like this doesn't make me feel any better bout myself. I just don't understand how I can be beautiful when all I do is be myself. it seem like the more i'm myself the more people think i'm ugly or a dork or not worth talking to. I'm really confused because if beauty isn't what you see then how can people say that movie stars and tv stars are beautiful or what every man wants when they don't know them. that whats makes me upset because i want to be as beautiful as them if that what people want. I don't want to be a wallflower or someone who just pretends. Please i just need a lil help. Sam

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kevin

about 4 years ago

beauty comes from within so were told. the trick is beleiving it yourself thats the hard part how can you see the beauty if you cant get the feeling required

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Lynne Quintana

about 4 years ago

Beautiful doesn't necessarily mean "outer beauty", it is really more important who we are in the inside. -Your strong sense of faith in God makes you beautiful. :) Lynne

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